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Thank you for following my journey. My name is Marjorie and I am morbidly obese. I have battled with my weight my whole life. I have had ups and downs yet I refuse to give up. Join me on my journey to claiming my body back. Is going to be a long road.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Brutally Honest About Obesity.!

“Truth and Honesty is the oldest and most powerful of all of the human values.”

For a long time I wanted to be brutally honest about what obesity can and will do to your body. No body can tell me stories I have walk the path of obesity for so many years and I know the truth. I have never understood how obese and morbid obese people can say they are happy with their lives. They say they won’t change anything about their lives because the extra weight they are carrying is simply not an issue. I personally believe that when someone becomes obese we learn to live with and accept our obese bodies, but that does not mean we are happy with our selves.  As long as I live I will never believe that obesity will equal happiness!! How can anyone be happy when you have difficulty breathing and you wheeze when you walk or when you have difficulty putting your own socks and shoes, when you can’t bend, when you can not fit at a booth. When seat belts are too tight or won’t fit? How can any one be happy when they go shopping and nothing in the stores fits except huge shirts and sweats that look like tents? When you sweat every time you move?

The picture on the right I had lost 150 pounds  now I have lost 163.
There are so many medical conditions that arise when the body is obese; some of them are stretch marks, varicose veins, calluses, arthritis, sleep apnoea, asthma, the increased risk of heart attacks, depression, strokes, high blood pressure, and diabetes. Also due to the excess fat there are lumps that form on your body due to the fat that is blocking your pores. You get back pain, knee pain and lets not forget the way humanity treat us. We seem to loose a sense of belonging due to our weight. So when someone tells me they are happy being obese I what to shake them and tell them to stop lying to themselves! I often wonder what is their story. What caused them to overeat? What caused them to stop loving themselves? Obese people have to stop blaming underlying causes or their food choices. They need to stop eating when they are sad or feeling down on themselves. Who gets hurt? We all do. When we consume an excessive amount of calories, we do not help our situation in fact we cause undue stress on our own bodies and emotional well being. I am no longer blaming any one else for my obesity or for the food choices I make.  The day I was brutally honest with my self and took responsibility for my body, my life changed!. My journey started on July 31, 2010. I can honestly say I am getting my life back. For the first time I love myself and I am the happiest I have ever been. Now I ask myself how can I nurture my body and not destroy it. Everything that I have written about on this blog entry I have experienced, except for diabetes and a heart attack. I have often wondered how I did not suffer from those 2 diseases. I am still fighting this obesity and I still have a long ways to go to get to my weight loss goal but I am brutally honest with my self. I am proud to let all my readers know that as of today I have lost 163 pounds!!!
So my questions to you my readers are., Are you brutally honest about your weight? Or are you one of those people that is blaming every one else for your weight gain?..

"If you cannot find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?"



Anonymous said...

You are right on about weight gain. Thanks for being brave and saying this! Joy

Misti Russell said...

As a woman who has been overweight for the last 17 of my 40 years, I believe you are right, in a sense. I was very unhappy with my body when I weighed 130 pounds and believed I was overweight. I wasn't diagnosed with being anorexic, but I ate as little as possible, exercised every single day, and suffered from depression.
Now, I am truly overweight. I need to lose at least 80 pounds to get back to being healthy. I know the correct steps I need to take, I know the right foods, the right exercises, everything. I even lost 35 pounds earlier this year, by doing exactly that. Then I gave up on myself again. And that is my worst struggle. I don't like me, and I most certainly don't love me. I know these issues go much deeper than what I put in my mouth, and the extra weight that keeps me in a perpetual state of embarrassment does not help matters.
To some it up, you're right. I don't know anyone that is unhealthily overweight that is truly happy. I'm not saying anything about thick women, just about the ones that have such a truly unhealthy lifestyle that contributes to their obesity. I'm not saying we aren't beautiful, just not deep-down truly happy.

Anonymous said...

I fall in between right now. I used to blame my depression for my binge eating. I have, in the past 2 years, lost 123 pounds.I have found other things to replace food as my comfort. I like to go for long walks now when I am depressed. For a long time I was in denial about my weight. Oh, I knew I was fat, just not how fat. I would routinely tell people I weighed 250 pounds. Imagine my shock and disgust when on a dreary afternoon in December of 2011 I weighed in at 343. Wow. I have since monitored my calorie intake religiously, exercised and actually measured out portion sizes correctly. Now, I proudly tell people I weigh 220 pounds.

Debbie said...

I came across this on Facebook and it applies to me in so many ways. I have to sit sideways so I can get my leg up on the couch so that I can put on my socks and shoes. I have heel spurs cause of to much weight on my heels. I avoid booths as much as possible. Thank you for the honesty.

Gypsy Contessa said...

Thank you saying what obesity is for people. truth. God bless Melissa

SeattleSeagirl said...

I so enjoyed reading your blog. Wow your weight loss is amazing. You give me inspiration and hope. Thank you.